This week I had a little time to read through people's stories on the site and also chat with a few by Instant Messenger. One thing continues to hit me, SO MANY people have the same problem, but feel like it's only them. That there must be something wrong with THEM.
The biggest problem, I think, is that people will talk about all kinds of problem. But if you admit that you are having problems with sex...it's like admitting there is something wrong with you.
Some people were just raised that sex is just one of those things "you just don't talk about". The problem is, that is exactly what needs to happen to solve the problem. Particularly with your partner! But even bringing up topics like frequency, size, positions, and, of course, orgasm with your close friends could allow you to get a different perspective and maybe some ideas. At a minimum, at least you wouldn't feel like you are the only one with this problem.
The internet is a wonderful tool with so much wealth of information out there. I continue to find new sites and sources of information to ensure that I can continue to improve not only my sexual self, but my whole self.
I found a wonderful site called SheKnows.com. Go to the Love tab, and look at the topics on sex. Great ideas, information and the opportunity for open comments.
Also - take advantage of the tools here on Divorce Network to reach out to others here. Sometimes it's nice to be an anonymous "username" in the crowd when you are uncomfortable talking about topics like sex. But you will be surprised if you open up just a little, you can find a lot of support out there.
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