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I was watching a you-tube video this morning of drunken car crashes, and the lives that are affected by it. Divorce often feels like a car crash, only sometimes it goes in slow-motion, very slow, where you feel each bump, bruise, scratch, broken bones, internal bleeding.
OK, it sounds melodramatic, but come on, when you are at the beginning of the process, that’s what it is like.
Then one day you wake up and actually WANT to get out of bed. Hum, it feels almost surrealistic. Day by day, or maybe it’s week by week, you start to notice things, like flowers, the sun, and the breeze. You find yourself laughing at something and realize you haven’t laughed in a while. Eventually, you have meals with friends, make new friends, help someone else out and you feel pretty good about yourself.
The joy comes back. Divorce is a season. And we know there is a reason for every season. Think back to one time in your life where you were totally and completely stuck. How did you get unstuck? What happened? It’s the same with divorce; it’s one of those milestones you can use in the future when you tell other people, if I could handle _____________ you fill in the blank, I can handle anything that comes my way!
Lori Rubenstein, JD, CPC
Divorce Coach and Mediator
www.transcendingdivorce.com
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