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  DivorceNetwork (7 months ago) JOKE OF THE DAY: A woman awoke during the night to find that her husband was not in bed. She put on her robe and went downstairs. He was sitting at the kitchen table with a cup of coffee in front of him. He appeared to be in deep thought, just staring at the wall. She saw him wipe a tear from his eye and take a sip of his coffee. "What's the matter dear? Why are you down here at this time of night?" she asked. "Do you remember twenty years ago when we were dating and you were only 16?" he asked. "Yes, I do," she replied. "Do you remember when your father caught us in the back seat of my car making out?" "Yes, I remember." "Do you remember when he shoved that shotgun in my face and said, 'Either you marry my daughter or spend twenty years in jail?'" "Yes, I do," she said. He wiped another tear from his cheek and said, "You know...I would have gotten out today."
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  DivorceNetwork (7 months ago) According to a 2006 survey by CNN 32% of workers said they had a work spouse. The definition is that the relationship is platonic with the intimacy of marriage but without the sex or commitment. The relationship is characterized by unusual openness, honesty, shared experiences and special confidences. Many people have a work spouse; someone they talk to at work, relying on for support, advice, and sometimes even flirting. The very phrase is odd considering they are obviously not married, and most have real spouses at home. However, there is some question as to whether having a work spouse is cheating. In many cases, such a person is no more than a friend to lean on at work that happens to be of the opposite sex. Some flirting may occur, but this can happen between perfectly platonic friends as well. Everyone appreciates attention, and it doesn't always mean it will go further than friendly banter. What's your opinion? To weigh in on the He Said, She Said follow the link below.

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