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"story" => "I'm happy where I am right now, but wanted to see if I could get some good advice on this site, and share some of the things that worked for me and my ex.
I was married for the first time at 19 to my HS sweetheart. After 5 years of marriage, I chose to leave as he was an alcoholic that refused to get help.
I dated someone too soon after my divorce and ended up living together for 2 years before realizing that I met him when I was in the "needy" stage of my life. He liked that person...but as I got stronger and got back to "my old self" he thought I was changing into someone else.
I married someone that was fun, enjoyed spending time together but did tend to argue a lot. I pushed those arguments away as I wanted to move on with my life, get married, have children. I thought our issues could be "worked out". Ten years later, many of the same problems were the root cause of our arguments. Instead of complimenting each other, we seemed to be better people when we were not together.
I thought of staying together for my children, but I have seen too often where people did that, and provided a horrible example to their children of what relationships should be like.
I have been divorced for four years now, and have complete peace with my decision. My children are happy & well adjusted. My ex just got engaged, so I know that another chapter will enter into this book, but I'm optimistic that we can work through it.
I look to others on this site for advice and share what has worked for me in my situation. I have had my share of downs...but I am happy to say that I'm on a major up right now. For those of you struggling in the middle of it, there is hope.
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Then there’s a couple that one of them is verbally abusive, threatens physical violence, and drinks. If you use the mandatory counseling to uncover the abuse then a proper program could be mandated to help reduce the threat of violence and help get the other party safely out of the relationship.
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I was married for the first time at 19 to my HS sweetheart. After 5 years of marriage, I chose to leave as he was an alcoholic that refused to get help.
I dated someone too soon after my divorce and ended up living together for 2 years before realizing that I met him when I was in the "needy" stage of my life. He liked that person...but as I got stronger and got back to "my old self" he thought I was changing into someone else.
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I thought of staying together for my children, but I have seen too often where people did that, and provided a horrible example to their children of what relationships should be like.
I have been divorced for four years now, and have complete peace with my decision. My children are happy & well adjusted. My ex just got engaged, so I know that another chapter will enter into this book, but I'm optimistic that we can work through it.
I look to others on this site for advice and share what has worked for me in my situation. I have had my share of downs...but I am happy to say that I'm on a major up right now. For those of you struggling in the middle of it, there is hope.
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(7 months ago)
KellyBelly - I just bought this CD and when I heard this song I immediately thought of you and how painful this part of the process is. Music has always been an outlet for me, so I started a new blog to share songs like this one. Maybe when you listen to it you will find hope and strength to help get through this difficult time.
DivorceCoachLori (5 months ago) Some never find it, how true that is! Thankfully, you are out of that one!!! Wowie cozowie huh.