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Gender: Male

Location: Cleveland, OH

Relationship Status: Divorced

Birthday: December 31st 1969

Sexual Orientation: Straight

Member Since: March 16th 2009

My Story:

Author of Domestic Relations Disaster Blog

Survey Responses

How many years have you been divorced?2

How many years were you married (or committed together)?12

How many children did you have with your ex-spouse?1

How many times have you been officially divorced?1

How many times have you been married?1

Education: Bachelor's Degree

Religion: Christian / Catholic

What type of relationship do you have with your ex-spouse: So so: we usually end up in a fight

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  john (5 months ago) What's up with the game avatar on the lower left? Seems more like a high school myspace item than being fit for this audience.
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    DivorceNetwork (5 months ago) John, thanks for your feedback. This is a small adspace used by "Meebo" our Instant Messanger provider and it will run a variety of ads which they control in exchange for a free but robust application for our members to connect with each other instantly and in real time. We hope you'll try it.

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  john (7 months ago) Yikes, timed out while composing my latest post, thought I lost it, thankfully I didn't. See my Season's Greeting post link.

  

  john Personal Blog - Season

  I can't believe how time flies, whether or not you are having fun.  I haven't had time to write on this topic, other issues are crowding them out for now. For several years I wrote prolificly so

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  (7 months ago) ne52 reminded me of a post I wrote last year, that I reposted here. Thankfully I don't have experience with cheating, but I do have plenty with the courts.

  

  john Personal Blog - Thinking About Divorce???

  Think again!!! Tips for those going down the divorce road --- DON'T! Well unless there is no other way. I'm a big proponent on fixing rather than giving up, but there is always an exception. Physical

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  john to sarahj (8 months ago) Sarahj, you say you are considering a split. Consider carefully. It appears you are outside Cuyahoga County and that's good. Anyone in our county has more reasons to avoid our reprimanded court. Look at my post Blog Divorce Industry Parasites and realize that there is money to be made off your martial strife. Good Luck.
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  john to (8 months ago) Legal Self Help can be found from Nolo and Socrates. Look for a "Divorce Kit" from Socrates for your state. If there are issues you can't agree on seek mediation, a contested divorce will be the worst experience.

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